We all have the feeling that we could be doing more from time to time. It’s this guilty little monster that glares at us from the gap between what we are doing and what we have the potential to do.
But it’s even worse when somebody else succeeds by doing something we believe we could have done just as well ourselves if only we’d taken the time to do so. So how do we find that time? Derek Sivers shares his thoughts about that here. This paragraph hit especially hard:
It takes many hours to make what you want to make. The hours don’t suddenly appear. You have to steal them from comfort. Whatever you were doing before was comfortable. This is not. This will be really uncomfortable.
August 4, 2020 10:27 am - Steve Peters
Meditation is incredibly simple. You sit, you close your eyes, you focus on (usually) your breath. Three steps. Nothing fancy. The reason that it’s simple but not easy, is that as soon as you settle down to do meditate, your mind begins to fill with a thousand complicated, urgent, worrying, interesting or totally random things…read more…"If you feel like the whole world is against you, it’s your mind that’s against you."
August 3, 2020 7:33 pm - Steve Peters
The first step towards being more patient is recognising that impatience is perfectly understandable. I mean yes, impatience is an irrational response to our over-inflated expectations of instant gratification. But it’s also a perfectly reasonable reaction to the fact that you’re going to die at some point in the future, and you have no idea…continue reading on Medium…
How many of your problems would be solved if you just had more willpower? You’d have the body of your dreams, you’d finish that project you’ve been putting off for years, you’d spend far less time watching cat videos. Willpower is the most essential tool there is in achieving any of our goals
Here, Art of Manliness bings us some tips for strengthening our willpower. Like most things, willpower is a tool that is strengthened by using it. So get ready to put he ice-cream back in the freezer.
While there are many ways to conserve your willpower, there’s really just one way to strengthen it.
By working on any goal or habit that exercises your self-control.
Remember when we talked about how willpower is like a muscle, and that just like a muscle, you have to exhaust it in the short-term in order to build its strength in the long-term? When you work to change a habit, you deplete your willpower in the struggle, but over time, the strength of your willpower muscle increases from these exercises, making you better able to take on future tasks.
Very little makes me happier than when somebody looks at something from an angle that has never occurred to me before, which is exactly what The School Of Life does in this video on how to remain calm with people.
He presents our tendency to feel victimised when people inconvenience us in some way as a form of self-hatred, which I must say is quite a compelling argument:
Part of the reason why jump so readily to dark conclusions, and see plots to insult and harm us, os a rather poignant psychological phenomenon; self-hatred.
The less we like ourselves, the more we appear in our own eyes as really rather plausible targets for mockery and harm. Why would a drill have started up outside just as we were settling down to work? Why did the email not arrive even though we’ll have to be in a meeting very soon? Why would the phone operator be taking so long to find our details? Because there is, logically enough, a plot against us.
Because we’re appropriate targets for these kinds of things. Because we’re the sort of people against whom disruptive drilling is legitimately likely to be directed. It’s what we deserve.
I’m sure I’ll be a much calmer person if I just bear in mind how much everybody loves me…
August 2, 2020 5:44 pm - Steve Peters
Think about the last time you got mad at somebody. Recall what you said, and what they said, and what you should have said when they said that. Now try to remember what you were thinking. Not feeling. Thinking. I’m betting that it was more or less a blank. This isn’t a coincidence. The emotional…continue reading on Medium…
Wouldn’t it be nice if your brain was more willing to work with you? You know what you should be doing, you know the reasons why you shouldn’t sit around all day eating ice cream and watching cat videos on Youtube, but when it comes down to it, which one sounds more appealing?
Self discipline is much more of an environmental issue that it is an individual one. While an individual can change their beliefs and behaviour through education, the resources available for education are presented by the environment. Furthermore, the habits an individual builds to meet their desires are, in large part, a product of what’s available in the environment.
At a basic level, this is the logic behind removing ice cream and cakes from your house if you’re trying to lose weight, or turning g off your phone if you want to concentrate on your work. Willpower is important, and we can all do with building our reserves of it, but it never hurts to manipulate our environment into boosting our chances of sticking to our goals.
Fitmind.co brings us a deep dive into the concept of non-duality, the belief that we’re not all separate selves, interacting with a world of discrete objects, but instead, are all manifestations of a single, all-encompassing awareness.
This idea can be found in the teachings of Buddhism, Sufism, Kabbalah and others, and is actually not as strange as it first appears. For instance, Non-duality immediately does away with one of the most difficult questions facing philosophers and neurologists today; how matter (in the form of the brain) can give rise to consciousness.
According to proponents of non-dualism, scientists have the question backwards. It’s not matter that gives rise to consciousness, it’s consciousness which gives rise to (the appearance) objects. The whole hing is well worth a read.
August 1, 2020 6:08 pm - Steve Peters
There’s a certain type of person that gives spirituality a bad name. I’m not talking about people who believe in God or reincarnation, or that karma keeps a cosmic ledger of our good and bad deeds. I’m talking about the kind of person who tells you about how spiritual they are before they’ve even bothered…continue reading on Medium…
I’m not convinced that there’s anyone who can speak more beautifully about life than the late, great Alan Watts could. He had a wonderful ability to make you think about life in a way which was just a step removed form your usual perspective. Thank God he recorded so many of his lectures so we can continue to listen to his words now that he’s gone:
Let’s suppose that you were able, every night, to dream any dream you wanted to dream. And that you could, for example, have the power within one night to dream 75 years of time. Or any length of time you wanted to have.
And you would naturally as you began on this adventure of dreams, you would fulfil all your wishes. you would have every kind of pleasure you could conceive. And after several nights, of 75 years of total pleasure each, you would say “Well! That was pretty great!” But now let’s have a surprise.
Let’s have a dream which isn’t under control. Where something is going to happen to me that I don’t know what its going to be. And you would dig that and come out of that and say “Wow! That was a close shave wasn’t it?”
And then you would get more and more adventurous. And you would make further and further out gambles as to what you would dream. And finally you would dream where you are now. You would dream the dream of living the life that you are actually living today. That would be within the infinite multiplicity of choices you would have, of playing that you weren’t God.