“Because” vs “And”

Sometimes you’re stressing out about something and you have sneaking suspicion that you’re being unreasonable. Or at least, you can see that your reaction might be disproportionate to the situation. But it still feels as if your behaviour is being caused by the situation. So how can you tell?

Seth Godin offers a simple answer

Has this situation ever happened without you (or anyone, for that matter) feeling the way you’re feeling?

Here, Seth highlights the distinction between having a feeling because of a situation and having a feeling at the same time as a particular situation.

The answer is option number 2 far more often than most of us would like to believe. People have endured all kinds of stress and hardships without giving in to stress or anger or defeatism.

To say that you have no choice but to succumb to these feelings it to say that you’re weaker than those who went before, and this is simply not true. We all have the ability to choose how we respond to life’s twists and turns, the trick is maintaining a wide enough perspective to do so.