Sometimes fear is useful. Sometimes it protects us from making mistakes, or hurting ourselves. Sometimes it reminds us to buckle our seatbelt, or to buy insurance.
But sometimes, perhaps more often than we care to admit, fear simply holds us back. It keeps us trapped in situations we don’t want to be in, by telling us that what’s outside is worse. This is where fear-setting comes in:
As soon as I cut through the vague unease and ambiguous anxiety by defining my nightmare, the worst-case scenario, I wasn’t as worried about taking a trip. Suddenly, I started thinking of simple steps I could take to salvage my remaining resources and get back on track if all hell struck at once
Fear thrives because it’s so awful that we’re unwilling to examine it too closely. “My presence is enough,” fear tells us, “don’t bother checking whether what I’m saying is true.”
It’s surprising how quickly fear scurry away under the light of our attention, so if fear is staring you down, try holding its gaze.