Don’t Die With Your Gifts Inside You.

If you’re feeling demotivated, my advice is to go sky-diving or bungee-jumping or whatever you need to do to remind yourself of your mortality, and then get back to work. I mean, what possible explanation could there be for your procrastination other than you’ve forgotten that you’re going to die? (Actually, there is one other…continue reading on Medium…
"If you feel like the whole world is against you, it’s your mind that’s against you."

Is your mind out of shape?

It’s difficult to imagine now, but there was a time when physical exercise seemed totally bizarre. It would have been completely unimaginable that someone would choose to spend an hour a day moving heavy weights or running in place or in circles. Formal exercise was unnecessary because life was so difficult that it made a…read more…
Is Your To Do List Driving You Crazy? Start A To-Don’t List Instead.

Imagine a list that there was zero pressure to tick items off of. In fact, the more items you added to it and didn’t do, the better you’d feel! Welcome to the to-don’t list.

To-do lists are the human equivalent of a hamster wheel. While they drive productivity and keep us on track, they just never seem to stop. Even as we cross items off, our lists just keep repopulating with more to-dos.

Here’s an idea, little hamster: Take a moment to think of a few things you could cross off your list — forever. Shed the responsibilities, habits and hobbies that use up your time in ways you don’t love. Call it your “to-don’t” list.

I’ve personally found this to be a great way of discovering and eliminating things that take up my time without giving anything in return. Highly recommended.

Can’t we just have a conversation?

David Shor, a white political data analyst was accused of anti-blackness and fired, for tweeting research carried out by a black assistant professor at Princeton. The offending research simply noted that Democratic vote share decreases in counties surrounding violent protests.

If this doesn’t scare you, it should. If this feels like progress, it isn’t.

Fear-Setting: The Most Valuable Exercise I Do Every Month.

Sometimes fear is useful. Sometimes it protects us from making mistakes, or hurting ourselves. Sometimes it reminds us to buckle our seatbelt, or to buy insurance.

But sometimes, perhaps more often than we care to admit, fear simply holds us back. It keeps us trapped in situations we don’t want to be in, by telling us that what’s outside is worse. This is where fear-setting comes in:

As soon as I cut through the vague unease and ambiguous anxiety by defining my nightmare, the worst-case scenario, I wasn’t as worried about taking a trip. Suddenly, I started thinking of simple steps I could take to salvage my remaining resources and get back on track if all hell struck at once

Fear thrives because it’s so awful that we’re unwilling to examine it too closely. “My presence is enough,” fear tells us, “don’t bother checking whether what I’m saying is true.”

It’s surprising how quickly fear scurry away under the light of our attention, so if fear is staring you down, try holding its gaze.

Worried About A Difficult Conversation? Here’s Advice From A Hostage Negotiator.

Did you ever read something that you feel like you should have known, only it never really clicked for you until it was expressed in that precise way? That’s how I felt when I read this insight into why people raise their voices:

When people have arguments, they raise their voices because they don’t feel heard.

Having felt the need to raise my voice quite recently, I can attest to the accuracy of this, but hopefully it will also act as an alarm bell in my own conversations. If I never get shouted at again I’ll know I’m onto something.

N.B. The article is behind a paywall on but as of this writing it can be read in full in the twitter app…