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Why it’s so hard to let others care for you.

It seemed allowing others to care for us is sometimes hard to accept. We may view it as a weakness, imagine we are a burden, or not worthy of such attention; and yet we often have no trouble caring for those in need; and may even go out of our way to do so. We might well ask, why the double standard? We are so often, sooner or later in the same boat.

An impressively comprehensive article on the importance of asking for help, and perhaps more importantly, accepting it when it's given. We'll all be in this position sooner or later, and how we deal with it can be literally life-changing.

Here’s why you need to be more reasonable.

Think about the most extreme views that you’ve heard in the past few months. We’re certainly not short of extreme viewpoints at the moment after all. Maybe it’s something about whether we should wear masks in the age of coronavirus. Maybe it’s something to do with race relations or police brutality. Pick any position that...continue reading on Medium...
"Happiness is the absence of the striving for happiness."

Empathy Is Cancelled.

What’s the worst thing you’ve ever done in your life? How would you feel if everyone in your life; your friends, your family, your colleagues knew about it? What would the repercussions be for your career and your relationships? This is the nightmare scenario most of us think about when we think of cancel culture,...continue reading on Medium...
Meditation for beginners.

A lovely piece by Leo Babauta of Zen Habits on getting started with a meditation practice and the benefits of doing so:

Lots of people think meditation is about clearing your mind, or stopping all thoughts. It’s not. This can sometimes happen, but it’s not the “goal” of meditation. If you have thoughts, that’s normal. We all do. Our brains are thought factories, and we can’t just shut them down. Instead, just try to practice focusing your attention, and practice some more when your mind wanders.

All of this is practice

I've read a great many things on the subject of lessons that can be learned from mindful practices, but this piece by Marley Flueger is easily one of my favourites:

The secret of yoga isn’t in the deepest backbend. It’s not in the perfect downward dog. There’s no secret in the longest-held “ohm.” The secret of yoga is in the things you teach yourself through repeated visits to your mat. It’s the practice of uncovering the wisdom of your soul.

Here are a few lessons you can learn if you show up and listen closely...

Seriously, do yourself a favour and read the whole thing.

What is stoicism?

Despite being a wonderfully practical philosophy, stoicism is often wrongly believed to be about simply gritting our teeth and enduring whatever comes our way. But this isn't quite right.

In the video above, Ryan Holiday provides a nice primer on what the philosophy is, what it has to offer, and how it helps all kinds of people navigate the difficulties of life.

The 3 things that helped me finally stick with meditation.

Clear, simple advice from Marianne Hayes on developing and maintaining a meditation practice. Particularly enjoyed this part about how meditation doesn't need to be narrowly defined:

Chances are, you already meditate and aren’t even aware of it. My husband, a marathon runner, swears up and down that meditating isn’t his thing. But when I ask why he loves running, his answer is that it gives his mind a break. The rhythm of his feet hitting the pavement, his breath going in and out, the natural beauty he observes during a good run—all of it works in tandem to silence his thoughts and allow him to just be.

For my husband, running is a form of meditation.